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Just accept the fact that you are not going to get
happy in this situation and kind of pamper your sorrow a little bit.*Read “The Crush”. I can’t remember who wrote it but it’s a great
Girls-I-Like-Are-So-Mean novel.*Read Violet and Claire again, or for the first time if you haven’t already.
*Dress up in elaborate outfits and perfect makeup, and lounge in your
bedroom writing and listening to the Cure (or Ani, or the Melissa Etheridge
album Brave and Crazy, or whatever you like that is wistful and sweet)*Make collages of whatever famous person you follow (I like to use Christina
Ricci and the girl from Dark Angel), put on a heavy coat of your favorite
lipstick, and kiss the collage again and again.Don’t push away your sadness, but don’t strangle yourself with it either.
Victorian women always went mad with the sorrow of their rejected love, and
ran about like giddy faeries picking flowers and wearing filmy scarves.
Play with your sorrow.
~Meg (via friendofdorothywilde)
—On being nice to yourself when you’re sad.
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[image: a scan of a zine page that reads,“Sometimes semantics mean a lot.Deconstructing oppression is not victimhood. Asking for support is not victimhood. Telling someone that I really can’t handle trying to support them at the moment because of my own needs is not victimhood. This has been said before, but I feel like the most important elements of survivorhood are self-care and resistance. Self-care can be recognizing our limits and asserting them, recognizing our needs and asserting them, eating healthily and deliciously, gardening, talking a walk, meditating, going to a show, smoking pot, hanging out with animals, masturbating, appreciating ourselves, hiking, taking vitamins, taking our medications, talking to friends, doing schoolwork, watching the ants on the sidewalk, having rad consensual sex, identifying mushrooms in the forest, sewing, playing music, cooking, analyzing our behavior, working out… the possibilities are endless and should always, always be focused on our needs. Whatever I am doing for myself (obviously provided that I’m not violating anyone else) is valid and important, because I am important. Resistance can be making a zine, recognizing our needs and limits and asserting them, talking to friends, calling people out, making tinctures, playing music, political organizing, insurrecting, sewing, having rad consensual sex, creating, hanging out with animals, educating ourselves, guerrilla art, yada. So many of these intersect because resistance and self-care go hand-in-hand. Self-care is subversive. Our culture expects for us to not take care of our needs in a self-aware, proactive manner. The systems of oppression thrive on our denial of our needs. Smash the state, know yourself, love yourself.”]](http://25.media.tumblr.com/tumblr_l2qoevnNWa1qa4vv1o1_500.jpg)
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[image: a scan of a zine page that reads,
“Sometimes semantics mean a lot.
Deconstructing oppression is not victimhood. Asking for support is not victimhood. Telling someone that I really can’t handle trying to support them at the moment because of my own needs is not victimhood. This has been said before, but I feel like the most important elements of survivorhood are self-care and resistance. Self-care can be recognizing our limits and asserting them, recognizing our needs and asserting them, eating healthily and deliciously, gardening, talking a walk, meditating, going to a show, smoking pot, hanging out with animals, masturbating, appreciating ourselves, hiking, taking vitamins, taking our medications, talking to friends, doing schoolwork, watching the ants on the sidewalk, having rad consensual sex, identifying mushrooms in the forest, sewing, playing music, cooking, analyzing our behavior, working out… the possibilities are endless and should always, always be focused on our needs. Whatever I am doing for myself (obviously provided that I’m not violating anyone else) is valid and important, because I am important. Resistance can be making a zine, recognizing our needs and limits and asserting them, talking to friends, calling people out, making tinctures, playing music, political organizing, insurrecting, sewing, having rad consensual sex, creating, hanging out with animals, educating ourselves, guerrilla art, yada. So many of these intersect because resistance and self-care go hand-in-hand. Self-care is subversive. Our culture expects for us to not take care of our needs in a self-aware, proactive manner. The systems of oppression thrive on our denial of our needs. Smash the state, know yourself, love yourself.”]
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Fuck yeah, feminists!: The People You Meet When You Write About Rape →
Lipstick Feminists: The People You Meet When You Write About Rape
From pervocracy:
I could not have said this better in a lifetime. Every post about rape on an major blog is littered with comments from one or all of these people.
Mr. What About The Men
“The real problem here is all these false rape accusations that are destroying our society! 90 million men are falsely accused of rape every second! A woman just has to sort of mumble a word starting with ‘r’ and a man instantly gets a life sentence! There are no instances on record of a woman actually being raped!”
Ms. Tough Girl
“If women would learn martial arts—70-year-olds and women with disabilities can do this if they put their minds to it, darnit—and carry weapons everywhere, no one would ever get raped! All you have to do is be ready to threaten your own friends and lovers with lethal force at any moment, any anyone who can’t do that must be weak or something.”
Mr. Model Victims Only Please
“The victim was no angel herself. If you look at her record, she’s been arrested several times, she’s a single mother, and she’s living on welfare. So it’s not like she was some innocent little virgin beforehand. None of this makes it right, but I’m just saying, let’s not overreact like a good woman got ruined.”
Ms. Fashion Police
“Did you hear what she was wearing? I’m sorry but that’s just not common sense. If you go out looking like a piece of meat, you have to expect you’ll get treated like a piece of meat.”
Mr. I’m Not Blaming Her But It’s Her Fault
“Rape is never the victim’s fault, of course. But I just want people to admit that she has some responsibility. That she maybe played a part in it. That in an alternate universe where she’d done things differently and she lived in a steel Battlemech wearing a chastity belt, she wouldn’t have gotten raped, and she did make the choice to not use a Battlemech. I just need people to acknowledge that.”mr. what about the men also includes the “but MEN get raped too! therefore somehow something about your point is null and void!” argument. (p.s. there are more at the link above)
“Mr. How Do I Not Rape Someone It Is So Difficult
“I just don’t understand how to tell if someone is ‘consenting’ or not. What if she secretly decides she doesn’t like it—am I a rapist then? What if she changes her mind midway through? Or afterwards? It’s impossible to know what women want, so how am I supposed to know if they want to have sex with me or not?””Too true. It makes me laugh because you almost always get the same types of rape apologists, but at the end of the day it’s still really sad. :(
Source: moreapologies
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Many ancient cultures believed their orgasms were mystical experiences, and there can be little doubt that such a perception had its roots in the accumulated folk wisdom of the ancient people’s own distant ancestors. It should be of no wonder, really, that the rapturous sensation of the immediate aftermath of orgasm was revered as something on a parallel with a religious experience from the moment human beings began to develop spirituality- the belief, often prompted by times of crisis, that there is meaning, purpose, inspiration and answers about the infinite to be had in life.
Jonathan Margolis (The Intimate History of the Orgasm)
I kind of need this on my blog right now, okay?
(via anarchafemikazibomb)
Source: sex-death-rebirth
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Reblog if you’re embarrassed of your weight or how you look.
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I’m really fed up with seeing this on my dashboard.
More information can be found at rainn.org.
Also, please, if you ‘like’ this, reblog it. Thank you.
Love,
Taylor
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Art assignment based on Feminism. I based mine on sex, sexual abuse, rape etc.
This is again about the rape thing. A traced picture of Marilyn Monroe’s body. It represents how some men think that because a woman shows off her body, they’re entitled to fuck/rape her. Pretty much the same concept as the last one with the Barbie.
Source: tism
Should we worry about whether porn has hijacked our sexuality? →
A very good interview with Gail Dines about her new book Pornified, the sex industry, and the fundamental changes that violent pornography may make to our relationships with each other.
My only gripe with this article is that she seems to use the very real physical health issues porn actors face as a !shocking! thing to rally women who are NOT involved against the porn industry, but does not seem to actually care about setting regulations and help in place to get brutalized women OUT of the industry. Which really rubs me the wrong way.
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100% foolproof tips to prevent rape and sexual assault
simple.
It’s not really rocket science is it?
Source: lipstick-feminists
It’s hard to imagine how a person can function in such terrifying circumstances. Two things helped, she says. The first was something a guard had said to her when she’d asked if the jungle frightened him. “He said, ‘You see, Ingrid, we’re all going to die. We don’t know when. For me, it could be a tree that falls on my head, it could be an anaconda, it could be a bullet from the enemy. I don’t care. I’m not going to live my life frightened because of all the dangers around me.’ That helped me so much.”
The second was a psychological trick. “You don’t master your fear. You’re not able to say, ‘I’m not going to be scared.’ But what you can do is say, ‘OK, I’m very very scared, but I have to do this and this and this.’ By focusing on the actions, the movements, and going down into little things – moving my hand to grab this branch – I could go beyond the fear. Put the fear aside and do the basics. That’s how I feel today.”
Ingrid Betancourt: I still have nightmares | The Guardian
—Tips on dealing with overwhelming fear: sounds like recovering from PTSD.
Source: Guardian
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[Flash 9 is required to listen to audio.]live through this with me, i swear that i will die for you.
asking for it | hole
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